Hej,
I live in Denmark. Beards no problem usually. Longish hair..no problem, usually. Jeans on service if you are young..no problem usually, you may get told off. Sisters wear trousers here on service.
All servants have been instructed to greet people coming in and out of the Khalls, usually there is an official welcomer who gets the job.
Been to funerals with the casket in the Khall.
We have a large outside assembly site in Silkeborg (google it, Jehovas Vidner Stævn Silkeborg). Recently they have partially covered some of it as it was a nightmare in the cold windy summers we have here. The set up was more primitive on the film but gives an idea for the public.
Having your child disfellowshipped is not automatically removal from being an elder, especially if the child is not living at home. The father could well have been made an elder after she is thrown out to show how loyal he is to the org. It was probably condensed to keep the story line.
This movie was seen by over 350,000 in Denmark...that is alot for a little country.